Simple^4 Xiaoming Wang

Three and half years could lift you up to the heaven or trap you down in the hell.

Three and half years could pass in one mini second or last for a century.

Three and half years could make you a hero or an absolute loser.

To make the salary increasing happen you have to learn being a decision maker, problem solver and hard worker. To get better pay we need get a better job which is the way to make money legally. So how to get a better job is what we called career development plan.

Initial phase

Analysis your personality, evaluate your capability and choose a career area and career goal. For example, you could do IT, project management, finance, accounting or sales. Become a manager before 30, to become executive team before 40.

Second phase

Improve your capability, open your mind and save credit. For example, further education, get some co-op opportunities, do some training in your current job. On the other hand, try different job positions, get to the management positions, or work in different countries and locations.

Last phase

Continuing improvement

If you have problem to get a job please check out my previous posts on how to get a job.

If you can not make a decision please contact me by e-mail

So that we can analyze your requirement and help you make the correct decision, whatever about which subject you should learn, what job you should apply. If you want to know who you should date, please go for Ben. I got advices from him.

Some tips would help if you bear those in mind.

• Be confident, and always tell the truth so that you would not be over-confident.
• Try to do everything perfectly and never loose yourself a little bit.
• Always, always work as a team rather than individually.
• Enjoy your life whatever it is in sunshine or miserable.
• Never stop trying even it did not seem like an opportunity.
• Learn from everyone around you. Everyone could know more than you do in a particular topic or subject.
• Never trust what people told you, believe what you saw, what they did.
• You are the only person you can trust and depend on not anyone else.
• Be nice to everyone even you do not like him.
• Care about your family, friends and treat everyone as treat yourself.
• Create a comfortable living environment although you have to spend more on it.

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Persuasive talks

It’s important to know our purpose when we stand up to speak.

Many speakers believe that they are simply presenting information. In reality, they want their listeners to use that information to take action, so their talks are actually persuasive.

Most persuasive talks do not involve changing the direction of a corporation. But they typically persuade people to make/take some changes, big or small. The change of the whole development process, or the change of one step in the process. The change from using C to C++, or the change of adding more comments to source code. The listeners of the persuasive talks can be top managers, department managers, colleagues, or subordinates.

As the persons who suggest the changes, we have unusual opportunities:

• To stand out and be remembered as the persons who advocate the changes.
• To make an impact on our organization and be well recognized.
• To advance our own career within the department or company.

Effective speakers do more: They bring a passion and commitment to what they are saying. This passion is infectious. It spreads to the audience and keeps them involved and excited about the speaker’s topic, even through a long presentation. This excitement is called energy.

Energy is enthusiasm and passion for our message. Energy should fill our entire delivery so the audience will more readily remain focused on us and what we have to say.

Studies show that a few days after attending a presentation, most of us remember only about 5% of it. It’s not surprising. With all the information we receive in a week, it’s a wonder that any of it really sticks with us. Information is constantly being thrown at us in meetings, company reports, magazine and newspaper articles, TV and radio programs, and on the Internet. Sometime it’s hard to remember what we read yesterday.

If our listeners will only remember 5% of a presentation, we need to make sure that the 5% include the central message. It is the core of a presentation. Everything else is just supporting data.

When we prepare a presentation, the first thing is to think what the audience want to know, so the information should be presented from the listeners’ point of view, not the speaker’s.

The audience usually want to know WIIFM (what’s in it for me?). They want to know:

• How will it benefit me?
• How can I use this information in my job?
• Why is the central message relevant to my life?
• What does it mean to my future here?
• What is the impact of the message on how I do my job?

We need to make the presentation relevant to the audience, or make it meaningful to the audience.

Verbal skills:

• Develop a clear central message for the presentation.
• Make the presentation relevant to the audience (WIIFM).
• Gather evidence to support the central message.
• Organize the information (opening, message/evidence, and closing).

Visual skills:

• Make eye contact to connect with listeners.
• Use gestures to describe and emphasize ideas.
• Use facial expressions to communicate feelings and attitudes.

Vocal skills:

• Raise and lower voice level for emphasis.
• Change pacing to stimulate audience’s interest.
• Use pauses to make important points.

We all agreed that we want to USE the 3V skills on daily basis so that we become effective speakers.

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It’s hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, states, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here’s how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

Steps

1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.
   • Will you be dating others and will you tell each other about your other dates
   • Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?
2. Communicate in some way every day - more than once if possible. Since you won’t be seeing each other, it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don’t have to be long, in-depth conversations (though those should occur sometimes). Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Sing songs together. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or webcams for that visual connection. Have “racy” conversations late at night. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don’t take communication for granted!
3. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.
4. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there’s a movie you’re both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while on you’re on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.
5. Avoid the temptation to try to control your significant other. People have free will and no one can control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You’re going to have to trust your significant other completely if this relationship is going to work.
6. Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you’d want to live together, discussing how you’re going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.
7. Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you’ll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it’s worth, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. Either you’ll decide to go your separate ways, or you’ll get closer for having overcome another obstacle to your happiness together.

Tips

• A long distance relationship is no different from a proximal relationship in that they both require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding. But you will have to work extra hard to maintain the communication and to stay focused enough to not let your daily life interfere with your desire to be with the other person. Don’t forget them or you can forget the relationship.
• One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is connecting when one person gets busier than the other. If this happens in a relationship it is important to maintain communication. If you are the busy person, try to warn your partner ahead of time that you will be working many hours and may have limited time. If you are the not-as-busy person, take advantage of the time by picking up a new hobby, getting in shape, reading a new book, etc. Flexibility is very important.
• It helps to have a solid time in the future for when the long distance part of the relationship will end, no matter the time length. Without it, the relationship can begin to mold into something that is always distant - even with great communication. With it, potentially each person can see the point at which the distance will end and work harder to keep emotions readily available.
• When talking to your partner, take note of things they enjoy the most (hobbies, day-to-day activities, etc…) and do a little research on it so you have more to do when you see them next. For example: If your partner likes to dance, find the location of different clubs where you will see them next. If you don’t know how to dance, take lessons and you will impress them by your willingness to make an effort on their behalf.

Warnings

• Long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. They can be very trying - but so can proximal relationships. If you are a very needy or jealous person, recognize that these tendencies may not be compatible with any type of healthy relationship, but may make a long distance relationship nearly impossible to sustain.
• Remember that only you and your long distance partner understand the nuances of your relationship. Friends, family and colleagues may not understand your preoccupation with someone you have never met or rarely meet. Listen to their advice with a grain of salt unless they have been there themselves.

The article is from wiki.ehow.com

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